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Mindset & Match
Mark Claridge's new eBook, "Mindset & Match" goes right to the heart of self improvement. He shows how to develop a correct "mindset" through a step-by-step action plan.
Mark's philosophy is simple and powerful: "Tomorrow could be the day your life will change, but only if you want it to. Remember the choice is always yours."
Apart from the easy-to-follow guide, Mark also includes some very useful and relevant bonus books.
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Your Life: Change Your Point of View
With this article I hope to provide you with all information
you need to learn about this topic. I will focus on answering
the questions that most people ask when
researching this. I hope I have anticipated what your most
important questions are or that I have at least armed you with
enough information to start some research of your own.
"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud,
and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of
Quiet Thoughts
If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump
for joy and push for better results the next time or will you
be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?
In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to
have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you
may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging
and fulfilling life.
So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?
Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale;
to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political
success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life
and freedom from trauma.
On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have
never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way
it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from
30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder
but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.
Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back
up why it really pays to be an optimist:
Optimists expect the best
The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend
to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine
everything they do, are their own fault.
The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks
of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s
the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary
setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.
Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand.
They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they
most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that
helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation,
they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.
They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed
once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune
in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”
Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions
during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and
unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up.
They see opportunities instead of obstacles.
Being prepared is the key. Finding the best bargains, the
best tips, the best articles, the best websites, and learning
all you can about any subject helps you benefit more than those
who don’t prepare. I always like to find all the information
I can about something before I actually buy it, do it, or use
it, no matter what it is.
People respond positively to optimists
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their
happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people.
They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view
of the world can be contagious and influence those they are
with.
Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities.
Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those
who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.
In life, these people often win elections; get voted most
congenial and sought for advice.
When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher
Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being
during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic.
In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events
by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems.
Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties
arise.
They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also
known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to
that goal or elusive dream.
Optimists are healthier and live longer
Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a
positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's
ability to fight disease.
Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer
than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age.
And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.
So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards
a more fulfilled life.
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why
not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit
lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out
of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the
right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored
glasses and see life in the bright side?
If there is anything about this that I didn’t cover here,
I apologize. It is extremely difficult to cover everything
in just one article, but I tried to touch on what I thought
were the most important issues surrounding this topic. A simple
search on the web should answer any additional questions you
may have.
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